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My Dear Sweet Carolina Jane,
I've let a lot of time go by now since you've been born. Over two weeks, because I'm enjoying you so much. I haven't made many phone calls, like I did when Delsin and Kai were born. It's not that I don't want to talk to anyone. It's not that I don't want to blog about you, that there aren't things that I want you to know, when you are old enough to read it. It's just that I've learned how to enjoy these little moments with you, far better than I did with Delsin and Kai. I enjoyed my time with them, all while keeping a running to-do list in my head of all these things I haven't been doing in the past two and a half weeks. I wish I could have been this relaxed when your big brother and sister were born. I made the mistake of trying to control everything, trying to do everything I did before and the new things too. I'm not doing that this time. This time I'm holding you like I've got nothing else to do and cuddling with you as long as I can. And I must say it's must less stressful this way.
And that is why you're likely to not have all of your best memories documented, because I'm simply going to enjoy each moment and document whenever I have the time and think about it.
I want to tell you a little bit about the days before you were born.
I was nesting, of course, and you were head down and giving me the sensations that you were trying to claw your way out each night about 6 o'clock.
On the day before you were born I woke up at approximately 5 AM to relieve myself and hopefully fall back asleep. But upon returning to bed I took a quick glance toward the door and saw your big sister standing there. "Mama, I had an accident in my panties," she said. So I instructed her to change and go back to bed. She returned a few minutes later saying she had done as I instructed and then had another accident. So I told her to go potty then change again. By that time I was up for the day.
We had to take your Daddy to work, because you and I had a Dr.'s appointment that day. 38 week appointment. So, I got to work feeding the dogs and going through the morning scurrying around. We got Daddy to work and then went about our day filled with starting sewing a gown for you, Dr. appointment, playing at the playground, doing a little consignment store, dollar tree, and Subway shopping, then back to pick up Daddy at 5 PM and head to church. But I was hoping to get to stay home while Daddy took Delsin and Kai to church with him, so that I could get a few things done around the house. You see, I had started sewing a gown for you earlier that day, a gown that I wanted to be your first outfit, and I wanted to finish it. Also, Prince had been having accidents, very messy accidents and the floors had to be mopped daily, so I needed to vacuum, mop and give Prince a bath. And I started with vacuuming about 15 minutes after everyone left for church.
After vacuuming, before mopping I decided to give Prince his bath. I was exhausted from such an active day and was in no mood to put up with Prince trying to run from me to escape his bath time. I began to lose my temper and raise my voice with him, while forcing him in the positions I wanted him to stand. Finally, upon finishing him I led him up on to the porch and turned to go back down the wet stairs. The stairs were very wet, because I had accidentally sprayed water on them while trying to hold the hose and Prince all at the same time. I was also wearing a pair of 3 year old flip flops. Very smooth on the bottom flip flops. I went flying, and came down on my right butt cheek on the top step. Then I proceeded to slide or bounce down each subsequent stair step. I knew this was not going to be good as far as keeping the baby from coming out. I just sat there and cried and screamed a time or two. I was angry. I got up and cleaned up everything and then sat down on the couch and cried some more. I was sitting there crying when your Daddy and brother and sister came home.
I'd been having braxton hicks contractions for several weeks and the past few days they'd seemed to be coming more often and maybe a little stronger. So, about an hour after my fall, I decided to start timing them. Pretty soon I started having Daniel write each one down. At first I was surprised to find out they were 6 minutes apart, consistently. I knew then that I was in labor.
Like I said, I had started making you a gown earlier, and I wanted it to be your very first outfit. Not one to leave anything undone, I knew then that I needed to start sewing in between contractions if I wanted to get it done in time for you to wear it. I didn't say a word to your daddy about knowing I was in labor. I was afraid he'd tell me to relax in between contractions and I didn't want to argue with him about me sewing your gown. So I just sewed as fast as my little fingers could work the fabric under the needle. Pretty soon the contractions were about 3 minutes apart and I was nearly finished with the gown. Your daddy finally said something he'd been thinking. "Babe, you may want to start considering the idea that you may be in labor. You may want to start packing a bag for the hospital."
Then I replied, "Babe, we are in labor. That is why I'm finishing this gown."
"YOU'RE INSANE!"
"(Laugh) I knew you would say something like that," I said.
Then he packed a bag for us and took your brother and sister over to Claire's house, while I finished your gown. Then we were in the truck.
I was a little disappointed in myself for not remembering to bring some good music to listen to while in labor. I was a little disappointed for not being strong enough to have you at home. But the peace of mind of knowing someone who delivers babies for a living and can be prepared if anything goes wrong is priceless. Maybe next time, Lord willing, we'll be able to afford a midwife and we'll be able to find one that lives close by.
I knew before we left the house that I wanted to get an epidural. I had hoped to enjoy the experience of giving birth without pain reliever. However, child birth is PAINFUL. And having been up since 5AM, with such a full day, I was exhausted. I was looking forward to getting a little sleep before you came.
The truck ride wasn't so bad. But each contraction got more painful as I was positive we might not make it to the hospital. "We might have this baby naturally after all!" I thought, as we drove to the hospital. Once we got there the contractions were worse than ever and time passed more slowly than ever. That's what I dislike so much about being at the hospital. You have to wait and wait and wait in a cold, boring, medical facility. It's not at all like being at home and having the comforts of home and the distractions of trying to get things done in between contractions to make it all seem to go faster. Between two and a half to three hours after we got to the hospital the Dr. on call, Dr. Long, arrived on the scene. The nurse checked my cervix and announced that I had dilated 3 cm. "YOU'VE GOT TO BE KIDDING ME!" I shouted in disbelief. Daniel laughed, he said it was a pretty funny site. I was so surprised. I mean, when I was in labor with Delsin I didn't even know for sure I was in labor when they told me I had dialed 4 cm. So naturally, I expected my delivery with you to go much faster. By the time I was in what I considered serious pain I was sure I must be about to deliver any minute now. Ha!
So I asked if they were going to make me wait till I had dilated more before they would let me have a epidural and the Dr. said, "Give her anything she wants." I was happy about that.
At some point I remember telling the nurse about the gown I made for you. I was so proud. I just had to show her. "Where's that gown, Babe?" I asked your daddy.
"What gown?" He replied.
"What do you mean 'What gown'? The gown I finished making for the baby right before we got in the truck."
"Oh. It's in the truck." He said proudly, as if I were going to be so happy that he brought it. And to be honest I was relieved that it was in the truck, 'cause by the was he said, "What gown?" I thought he might say he didn't realize I wanted to bring it, or that he thought I had packed it, or something else along those lines.
"What do you mean it's in the truck?"
"What's wrong with it being in the truck? It's here."
The the nurse said, "It's the baby's first outfit. How are they going to wear it if it's in the truck?"
"Yeah! The baby's about to be born, we need it here!" I exclaimed.
Before long I was sleeping, and Daniel made the trip to the truck to get the gown. I guess I must have slept from about 3 AM till about 6 AM. When I woke I could feel your head traveling along my backside. It felt like you were pressing against my colon and moving down the birth canal. I waited to feel that two or three times then decided to call a nurse. There was no pain, just pressure. As she was getting everyone ready to come into the room I felt your head with my fingers. My heart started racing with excitement and anticipation. There was no checking the cervix, your head was past that. When the Dr. sat down he said you'd probably be born on the next contraction. So I pushed with all my might. When that contraction was over I could see your head and face in the reflection of the Dr.'s glasses. You were blue and he was suctioning all the mucus away from your orifices. I pulled my gown up, exposing as much of my skin as I could, ready to put you on my chest as soon as possible. I could hardly wait for the next contraction, and when it came I pushed even harder than I ever did before. I remember visualizing you being pushed out, trying to make my pushes even more effective.
And you were born.
I remember looking at Daniel and his eyes catching mine and then suddenly, as if snapping out of it, I said, "What is it? Did you see what it is? What did we have?" We both looked at you as the Dr & nurses were wiping most of the vernix off of you. I couldn't see anything but the top of your head and your back. Then I heard, "It's a girl!" And you were passed to me, and all I could see after that was you. I instantly put you to my breast. I knew that would calm you, as you were crying. Poor baby. I just couldn't believe it. You were finally here.
6 lbs 7 oz. 19 inches long. Blue eyes, lots of dark brown hair. Beautiful! Sweet!!!
It's taken me 3 weeks and two days to finally document it all. I can't take my eyes off of you. You're growing and well over 7 lbs now.
When you were 4 days old you did something amazing to me. You were crying. I changed you wet diaper and you were still crying. As I was about to secure your diaper you reached down and grabbed your umbilical cord and jerked it right off. Instantly you stopped crying, and you didn't cry the rest of the day. I knew that your umbilical cord had bothered you sometimes when you were eating, but I didn't expect you to jerk it right off like that. We had a visit with our pediatrician's office a couple of days later and they were just as astonished as we were. They checked the scab and said everything was looking just fine. It did give you a little bit of trouble after that, but I believe now it's completely healed. It looked completely healed a couple of days ago and when I bathed you it bled a little and scabbed a little by the next morning, so no more baths for a few more days. Sponge baths only.
Gosh! I know there's more I want to tell you too. Like how every day I can tell more and more that you have better vision and just the past two days have started really staring in to our eyes a lot more than you did before. I know that you are about to wake up to eat, so I'm going to go grab a quick bite myself. I'll write more later.
I Love You Carolina Jane!